You’re brushing your teeth and thinking about the lunchboxes. You’re in a meeting and remembering the birthday invitation you still haven’t answered. You’re folding laundry and mentally preparing tomorrow’s groceries.That’s mental load.And chances are, you’re carrying it… all by yourself.
What Is Mental Load?Mental load is the invisible, ongoing management of life. It’s not the doing; it’s the remembering, planning, checking, tracking, worrying, and anticipating. It’s the never-ending mental checklist that runs on autopilot:
✅ Appointments
✅ Schedules
✅ Emotions
✅ Household needs
✅ Everyone else’s wellbeing
It drains you,without ever showing up as a completed task.
The Signs You’re Carrying Too Much Mental Load. You feel mentally exhausted after a day where “nothing” really happened. You forget your own needs, but remember everyone else’s. You can’t relax, even when you finally sit downYou feel resentful or overwhelmed, often both.
3 Ways to Lighten Your Mental Load (Starting Today)
1. Do a Brain Dump Before Bed 🧠Take 5 minutes to write down everything swirling in your head. Not a neat list just dump it. Why it works: Your brain no longer needs to hold it all. You’ll sleep better and wake up clearer.
2. Share the Load Explicitly 🫱🏽🫲🏼Don’t wait for others to “see” what you’re carrying. Be direct: “I’m tracking way too many things. Can you take over school emails and the dentist appointments?” Why it works: Mental load is invisible. Make it visible and shareable.
3. Use a Weekly Dashboard Instead of a To-Do List 🗂️To-do lists grow endlessly. A weekly dashboard gives you overview and calm. Set it up like this:3 Must-Do’s this week 3 Nice-to-Do’s (only if there’s time)1 thing to let go (guilt-free) Why it works: It sets boundaries and helps you prioritize without pressure to do it all.
One Last Thing: You’re Not Lazy You’re Mentally Overloaded. If your energy doesn’t match your output, it’s not laziness. It’s invisible labor taking a visible toll. You’re not imagining it. And you’re not alone. 💛
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